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Maybe you've scrolled through your Facebook feed and you think, "So what if I roll my eyes? It's just five seconds of my time. How could it be hurting me?" Well, researchers have found that envying your friends on Facebook, actually leads to depression. That's just one of the traps that our minds can set for us. Have you ever complained about your boss? Or looked at your friends' lives and thought, "Why do they have all the luck?" Can't help thinking that way, right? That way of thinking seems small in the moment. In fact, it might even make you feel better in the moment. But that way of thinking is eating away at your mental strength. There's three kinds of destructive beliefs that make us less effective, and rob us of our mental strength. The first one is unhealthy beliefs about ourselves. We tend to feel sorry for ourselves. And while it's OK to be sad when something bad happens, self-pity goes beyond that. It's when you start to magnify your misfortune. When you think things like, "Why do these things always have to happen to me?" "I shouldn't have to deal with it." That way of thinking keeps you stuck, keeps you focused on the problem, keeps you from finding a solution. And even when you can't create a solution, you can always take steps to make your life or somebody else's life better. But you can't do that when you're busy hosting your own pity party.

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Maybe you've scrolled through your Facebook feed / and you think, / "So what / if I roll my eyes? // It's just five seconds of my time. // How could it be hurting me?" // Well, / researchers have found / that envying your friends on Facebook, / actually leads to depression. // That's just one of the traps / that our minds can set for us. // Have you ever / complained about your boss? // Or looked at your friends' lives and thought, / "Why do they have all the luck?" // Can't help thinking that way, / right? // That way of thinking / seems small in the moment. // In fact, / it might even make you feel better in the moment. // But that way of thinking / is eating away at your mental strength. / There's three kinds of destructive beliefs / that make us less effective, / and rob us / of our mental strength. // The first one / is unhealthy beliefs about ourselves. // We tend to feel sorry for ourselves. // And while it's OK to be sad / when something bad happens, / self-pity goes beyond that. // It's when you start to magnify your misfortune. // When you think things like, / "Why do these things always have to happen to me?" // "I shouldn't have to deal with it." // That way of thinking keeps you stuck, / keeps you focused on the problem, / keeps you from finding a solution. // And even when you can't create a solution, / you can always take steps to make your life / or somebody else's life better. // But you can't do that / when you're busy hosting / your own pity party. //

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The second type of destructive belief that holds us back is unhealthy beliefs about others. We think that other people can control us, and we give away our power. But as adults who live in a free country, there's very few things in life that you have to do. So when you say, "I have to work late," you give away your power. Yeah, maybe there will be consequences if you don't work late, but it's still a choice. Or when you say, "My mother-in-law drives me crazy," you give away your power. Maybe she's not the nicest person on earth, but it's up to you how you respond to her, because you're in control. The third type of unhealthy belief that holds us back, is unhealthy beliefs about the world. We tend to think that the world owes us something. We think, "If I put in enough hard work, then I deserve success." But expecting success to fall into your lap like some sort of cosmic reward, will only lead to disappointment. But I know it's hard to give up our bad mental habits. It's hard to get rid of those unhealthy beliefs that we've carried around with us for so long. But you can't afford not to give them up. Because sooner or later, you're going to hit a time in your life where you need all the mental strength that you can muster.

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The second type of destructive belief that holds us back / is unhealthy beliefs about others. // We think that other people can control us, / and we give away our power. // But as adults who live in a free country, / there's very few things in life that you / have to do. // So when you say, / "I have to work late," / you give away your power. // Yeah, / maybe there will be consequences / if you don't work late, / but it's still a choice. // Or when you say, / "My mother-in-law drives me crazy," / you give away your power. // Maybe she's not the nicest person on earth, / but it's up to you how you respond to her, / because / you're in control. // The third type of unhealthy belief that holds us back, / is unhealthy beliefs about the world. // We tend to think that / the world owes us something. // We think, / "If I put in enough hard work, / then I deserve success." // But expecting success to fall into your lap like some sort of / cosmic reward, / will only lead to disappointment. // But I know / it's hard to give up our bad mental habits. // It's hard to get rid of those unhealthy beliefs that we've carried around with us for so long. // But you can't afford not to give them up. / Because sooner or later, / you're going to hit a time in your life / where you need all the mental strength that you can muster. //