⏱ 05:28 - 08:47

FIRST CUT ⏱ 05:28 - 06:50

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But see, here's the deal with saying that you're fine: It's actually genius. Because if you're fine, you don't have to do anything about it. But when you think about this word "fine", it just makes me so angry. I mean here we are at a conference about being alive and you're going to describe the experience of being alive as "fine"?! What a flimsy and feeble word! If you're crappy, say you're crappy! If you're amazing say you're amazing! Tell the truth! And this not only goes for the social construct: "Oh, I don't want to burden you with the fact that I hate my life", or: "Hey, I'm amazing! But that would make you feel terrible." The bigger issue – The bigger issue with "fine" is that you say it to yourself. That thing that you want, I guarantee you, you've convinced yourself that you're fine not having it. That's why you're not pushing yourself. It's the areas in your life where you've given up. Where you've said, "Oh, I'm fine. My mom's never going to change, so I just can't have that conversation." "I'm fine. You know, we gonna wait until the kids graduate, before we get divorced, so we'll just sleep in separate bedrooms." "I'm fine. I lost my job, I can barely pay my bills, but whatever – It's hard to get a job."

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But see, / here's the deal with saying that you're fine: / It's actually genius. // Because if you're fine, / you don't have to do anything about it. // But when you think about this word "fine", / it just makes me so angry. // I mean here we are at a conference about being alive and you're going to describe / the experience of being alive / as "fine"?! // What a flimsy / and feeble word! // If you're crappy, / say you're crappy! // If you're amazing / say you're amazing! // Tell the truth! // And this / not only goes for the social construct / "Oh, I don't want to burden you with the fact that I hate my life", / or "Hey, I'm amazing! But that would make you feel terrible." // The bigger issue – / The bigger issue with "fine" is that you say it / to yourself. // That thing that you want, / I guarantee you, / you've convinced yourself that you're fine / not having it. // That's why you're not pushing yourself. // It's the areas in your life / where you've given up. // Where you've said, / "Oh, I'm fine. / My mom's never going to change, / so I just can't have that conversation." // "I'm fine. / You know, we gonna wait until the kids graduate, before we get divorced, so / we'll just sleep in separate bedrooms." // "I'm fine. / I lost my job, / I can barely pay my bills, but / whatever – It's hard to get a job." //

SECOND CUT ⏱ 06:50 - 08:47

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And you know, one of the reasons why this word also just annoys me so much is scientists have calculated – Oh yeah, I'm coming down! Scientists have calculated the odds of you being born. That's right. They've crunched the numbers. I see you up there. They've crunched the numbers on you – Yeah, you guys standing up, you want to sit down for this. They've crunched the numbers on you being born. And they took into account all of the wars, and the natural disasters, and the dinosaurs, and everything else. And do you realize that the odds, the odds of you, yeah, right here, put your computer away, stand up for me, Doug! So the odds of Doug here, turn around, say "hi" to everybody – the odds... yeah of Doug, Doug being born at the moment in time he was born, to the parents you were born to, with the DNA structure that you have, a hundred or no – one in four hundred trillion! Isn't that amazing? [ I'm so lucky! ]Yes! You're not fine, you're fantastic! You have life-changing ideas for a reason, and it's not to torture yourself. Thank you. Thank you, Doug. You know, Christine was right when she said all of you could be on stage. Because all of you – we're all in this category. One in four hundred trillion. All day long you have ideas that could change your life, that could change the world, that could change the way that you feel, and what do you do with them? Nothing!

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Let's follow Laura Mel Robbins...

And / you know, one of the reasons why / this word also / just annoys me so much / is scientists / have calculated / – Oh yeah, I'm coming down! // Scientists have calculated / the odds / of you / being born. // That's right. // They've crunched the numbers. // I see you up there. // They've crunched the numbers on you / – Yeah, you guys standing up, / you want to sit down for this. // They've crunched the numbers on you being born. // And they took into account / all / of the wars, / and the natural disasters, / and the dinosaurs, / and everything else. // And do you realize / that the odds, / the odds of you, / yeah, right here, put your computer away, stand up for me, / Doug! // So the odds of Doug here, / turn around, / say "hi" to everybody / – the odds... / yeah of Doug, / Doug being born / at the moment in time he was born, / to the parents you were born to, / with the DNA structure that you have, / a hundred or no – one in four hundred trillion! // Isn't that amazing? // [ I'm so lucky! ] // Yes! // You're not fine, / you're fantastic! / You have / life-changing ideas for a reason, / and it's not to torture yourself. // Thank you. // Thank you, / Doug. // You know, Christine was right / when she said all of you could be on stage. // Because all of you – we're all in this category. // One in four hundred trillion. // All day long you have ideas / that could change your life, / that could change the world, / that could change the way that you feel, / and what do you do with them? // Nothing! //