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So I'm here today to share with you six behaviors you can start today to increase your confidence. Why is it important to increase our confidence? Well, think of this. How would you behave or what could you achieve if you were 10 times more confident? Number one, count yourself in. I spoke with a woman about her first time doing sideline reporting at a nationally televised basketball game. She was shaking in her heels, standing courtside, nerves overtaking her until she heard something familiar in her headset. We'll be on in five, and three, two, one, you're live. And she performed with excellence, the nerves melting away. She's an athlete, a former basketball player used to performing on the court by the clock, and the tactic remained true. Counting will get you started, and momentum will keep you going. I have used this technique. I've had more uncomfortable conversations than I care to recall, but one I'll share with you today. I vividly remember standing on the warning track of the baseball field 45 minutes before game time, looking at the opposing manager and his team wearing the wrong color uniform. I wanted to turn and run back up to my office and hide, but instead, I faced him head on, and I said in my mind, three, two, one, go. And I started walking towards him. And when I arrived, we had a very uncomfortable conversation about his team wearing the wrong color uniform. Yes, I had asked these grown men to change their clothes. It was so awkward. But when I asked myself, who am I and how do I behave? The answer was that I'm a person who's not too shy to stand up for what I believe, what is right, and stand up to conflict. Counting got me started, and momentum kept me going.

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So I'm here today to share with you / six behaviors / you can start today / to increase your / confidence. // Why is it important to increase our confidence? // Well, / think of this. // How would you behave or what could you achieve / if you were 10 times / more confident? // Number one, / count yourself in. // I spoke with a woman about her first time doing sideline reporting at a nationally televised basketball game. // She was shaking in her heels, / standing courtside, / nerves / overtaking her until she heard something familiar in her headset. // We'll be on in five, / and three, two, one, / you're live. // And she performed with excellence, / the nerves / melting away. // She's an athlete, a former basketball player used to performing on the court / by the clock, / and the tactic remained true. // Counting will get you started, / and momentum will keep you going. // I have used this technique. // I've had more / uncomfortable conversations than I care to recall, but one I'll share with you today. // I vividly remember standing on the warning track of the baseball field / 45 minutes before game time, / looking at the opposing manager and his team wearing / the wrong color uniform. // I wanted to turn / and run back up to my office and hide, / but instead, / I faced him head on, / and I said in my mind, / three, two, one, go. // And I started walking towards him. // And when I arrived, / we had a very uncomfortable conversation about his team wearing the wrong color uniform. / Yes, / I had asked these grown men to change their clothes. // It was so awkward. // But / when I asked myself, / who am I and how do I behave? // The answer / was that I'm a person who's not too shy / to stand up for what I believe, / what is right, / and stand up to conflict. // Counting got me started, / and momentum kept me going. //

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Number two, what if you only had to be brave for a total of 20 seconds? Give yourself 20 seconds of courage. This behavior helped me enormously when I published my podcast, Leadership is Female, bold title and all, for all the world to see, hear, critique, and have their opinions. I vividly remember sitting on the carpet of my closet floor, holding my computer, looking at the upload button, thinking to myself, does it need any more edits? Should I listen to it one more time? And I told myself, Emily, give yourself 20 seconds of courage. And I hit publish and it was done. And guess what? I kept breathing, and the world kept turning, and the podcast grew into what it was meant to be, all because of 20 seconds of courage. Number three, take a seat at the table. Not metaphorically speaking, actually take a seat at the table. I spoke with a woman who represents some of the biggest names in baseball, and she told me a story about taking a seat at the table. She noticed women waiting around the edges of the room, waiting for the seats to be filled, and worse yet, she was doing it too. In order to become the more confident woman that she envisioned herself to be, she needed to go in, sit down, speak her mind, and get the deal done. That started with one simple action, taking a seat at the table. Number four, cheer for other people's success. They say that women will pull up the ladder behind them. What if you didn't? What if you extended a hand back to lead her forward? What if you celebrated the success of a colleague, rather than feeling sorry for yourself that it was not you accepting the accolades? Confident people celebrate the success of others, rather than feeling threatened. Think of this great quote from Amy Poehler, good for her, not for me. It turns that pit in your stomach of, oh, she did that, and I'm still here, into yes, good for her, not for me. This is her celebration, not mine. And when my time comes, isn't it going to be great to have the support of so many people around me? Wins are so much better celebrated together.

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Number two, / what if you only had to be brave for a total of 20 seconds? // Give yourself 20 seconds of courage. // This behavior helped me enormously when I published my podcast, / Leadership is Female, / bold title and all, for all the world to see, hear, critique, and have their opinions. // I vividly remember sitting on the carpet of my closet floor, / holding my computer, / looking at the upload button, / thinking to myself, / Does it need any more edits? / Should I listen to it one more time? / And I told myself, / Emily, / give yourself 20 seconds of courage. // And I hit publish and it was done. // And guess what? // I kept breathing, / and the world kept turning, / and the podcast grew into what it was meant to be, / all because of 20 seconds of courage. // Number three, / take a seat at the table. Not metaphorically speaking, / actually / take a seat at the table. // I spoke with a woman who represents / some of the biggest names in baseball, / and she told me a story about taking a seat at the table. // She noticed women waiting around the edges of the room, / waiting for the seats to be filled, / and worse yet, she was doing it too. // In order to become the more confident woman / that she envisioned herself to be, / she needed to / go in, / sit down, / speak her mind, / and get the deal done. // That started with one simple action, / taking a seat at the table. // Number four, / cheer for other people's success. // They say that women will pull up / the ladder behind them. // What if you didn't? // What if you extended a hand back to lead / her forward? // What if you celebrated / the success of a colleague, / rather than feeling sorry for yourself that it was not you / accepting the accolades? // Confident people celebrate the success / of others, / rather than feeling / threatened. // Think of this great quote from Amy Poehler, / good for her, / not for me. // It turns that pit in your stomach of, oh, she did that, and I'm still here, into yes, / good for her, / not for me. // This is her celebration, / not mine. // And when my time comes, / isn't it going to be great to have the support of so many people around me? // Wins are so much better celebrated together. //