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[C+] OWN: New Parenting Methods

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relinquish

[ ri-'ling-kwish ]

verb

- to give up something such as a responsibility or claim

She decided to relinquish control of the project and let her colleague take the lead.

aghast

[ uh-'gast ]

adjective

- suddenly filled with strong feelings of shock and worry

He was aghast when he saw the damage caused by the storm to his house.

epiphany

[ ih-'pif-uh-nee ]

noun

- a moment when you suddenly feel that you understand, or suddenly become conscious of, something that is very important to you

After years of struggling, she had an epiphany and realized what she wanted to do with her life.

regurgitate

[ ri-'gur-ji-teyt ]

verb

- to repeat information without understanding it

During the exam, he regurgitated all the information he had memorized without truly understanding it.

capricious

[ kuh-'prish-uhs ]

adjective

- changing mood or behavior suddenly and unexpectedly

The weather in spring can be quite capricious, changing from sunny to rainy in a matter of minutes.

LET'S TAKE A LOOK! [ FULL CLIP ]

⏱ 07:36 - 12:36

What is the video all about? Choose two statements that refer to the main ideas of the video.


1. The conversation touches on the struggle of relinquishing control as parents.

2. Dr. Shefali emphasizes the danger of parents intertwining their identity with their children's lives, highlighting the need for separating personal worth from their children's actions

3. Oprah encourages parents to let adult children live messily, respecting their choices.

4. The conversation delves into parental struggles, with Dr. Shefali sharing experiences of ego and shame.

LET'S TRY IT! - FIRST CUT

A. Script Completion

Direction: Watch the first cut of the video and complete the following lines below with the missing words. Write or type down your answers while listening.

⏱ 07:36 - 09:01

  1. "Our children are an of us ."

  2. "So imagine how we are with their destiny . "

  3. "He went to the house and the house was really messy and found that a little and I said but what does that have to do with you? "

  4. "Because our very identity our personhood is in with our children ."

  5. " This is what conscious parenting teaches and I teach in the book how do you and your wholeness, your worthiness from your child ."

LET'S PRACTICE - SECOND CUT

A. Script Completion

Direction: Watch the second cut of the video and complete the following lines below with the missing phrases.

⏱ 10:19 - 12:36

Icon_Dr. Shefali

Dr. Shefali

Because I was so (1) for the day and we were going to do this and then go for dinner and sing songs and she was going to tell me I'm the best mother and go to bed. So I had the whole agenda like we parents do. We have the next 25 years (2) and then when the child decided to b a child as mine did, she dared to have some feelings an shriek and scream like children do. I was just aghast as if you know she had uh offended me and insulted my very (3) and I remember feeling a (4) that I was failing,

Icon_Oprah

Oprah

And the shame is because what.. I can't control my child?

Icon_Dr. Shefali

Dr. Shefali

I can't control this bloody little thing and everyone's watching me and I'm useless and this child is just not (5) and look at her. How dare she? And so you feel judgement from others. You feel a great sense of inner criticism and shame and then you kind of try to label your child and you make her the bad one. So I did all of that in the short span of a 20 minutes walk of shame as I walked her back home an everyone was looking at me as if I was (6) her um and then I couldn't even let it go you know children have a mood and they can move on but we parents keep (7) so I was whipping myself into shame and that's when I had a (8) to realize how much my ego was wrapped up in this destiny of a three-year old. That's a real dangerous thing, when you give your sense of worth to a three-year-old. Now you're in trouble. And that's when I woke up and I realized that I needed to do a lot of work on myself so that I could (9) and not be affected by my child's mood, by her capricious thoughts, by her nature and therefore liberate her.

LET'S DO THE CHALLENGE - FULL CLIP

Direction: Answer the following questions based on the video and let's check your comprehension.

⏱ 07:36 - 12:36

  1. What does Dr. Shefali highlight as a common trap for parents?

  2. Describe Dr. Shefali's approach to parenting evolution.

  3. Does Dr. Shefali feel a sense of liberation now that her daughter is 21?

  4. According to Dr. Shefali, what realization did she have during a conflict with her daughter?

  5. Do you agree with Dr. Shefali's advice to separate personal worth from children's actions? Why or why not?

LET'S RECAP!

Active-Listening Let-s-Recap-2

1. Which new words/phrases were easiest to remember? Give three.

どの語句/文が覚えやすかったですか?3つ挙げてください。


2. Which words/phrases were you having a hard time to speak/understand? Give three.

どの語句/文が話したり理解するのに難しかったですか?3つ挙げてください。

relinquish

[ ri-'ling-kwish ]

verb

- to give up something such as a responsibility or claim

She decided to relinquish control of the project and let her colleague take the lead.

aghast

[ uh-'gast ]

adjective

- suddenly filled with strong feelings of shock and worry

He was aghast when he saw the damage caused by the storm to his house.

epiphany

[ ih-'pif-uh-nee ]

noun

- a moment when you suddenly feel that you understand, or suddenly become conscious of, something that is very important to you

After years of struggling, she had an epiphany and realized what she wanted to do with her life.

regurgitate

[ ri-'gur-ji-teyt ]

verb

- to repeat information without understanding it

During the exam, he regurgitated all the information he had memorized without truly understanding it.

capricious

[ kuh-'prish-uhs ]

adjective

- changing mood or behavior suddenly and unexpectedly

The weather in spring can be quite capricious, changing from sunny to rainy in a matter of minutes.