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[A+] How To Win Friends & Influence People

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candidate 

[ ˈkan-di-ˌdeyt ]

noun

- a person who is competing to get a job or elected position 

The candidate impressed us with her qualifications.

self-seeking 

[ ˈself-ˈsee-king ]

adjective

- interested in your own advantage in everything that you do

A lot of people feel that politicians are just self-seeking opportunists.

genuine  

[ ˈjen-yoo-in ]

adjective

- real or authentic, not fake or insincere

He has demonstrated a genuine interest in the project.

goodwill  

[ ˈgood-ˈwil ]

noun

- a friendly and positive attitude in which you wish that good things happen to people

He expressed goodwill towards his former colleagues.

selfless

[ ˈself-lis ]

adjective

- caring more about other people’s needs and interests than about your own

She’s a selfless person who is deeply concerned about social justice.

LET'S TAKE A LOOK! [ FULL CLIP ]

What is the video all about?

LET'S TRY IT! - FIRST CUT

A. Script Completion

Direction: Watch the first cut of the video and complete the following lines below with the missing words or phrases. Write or type down your answers while listening.

⏱ 03:13 - 04:17

The only way on earth to influence other people is to talk about what they want and show them how to get it." Every act, every person performs, is because of some desire—something they want. Therefore, if you're smart, instead of talking in terms of what you want, always talk in terms of (1) . Take a moment before speaking and ask yourself, “How can I make this person want to do it?” Gary Vaynerchuk, the well-known businessman and author, spends most of a hiring interview (2) exactly what the candidate desires. After he finds their true desire, he (3) for the candidate to use that desire to succeed. He explains to them how the company can help them reach their goals. He then gives them the (4) the company and become part of the vision. To achieve your own goals, focus on helping others (5) . Talk about their desires and explain how your suggestions can help them achieve their goals. By (6) , you can ultimately get what you want. “The world is full of people who are grabbing and self-seeking. So the (7) who unselfishly tries to serve others has an enormous advantage.

LET'S PRACTICE - SECOND CUT

A. Script Completion

Direction: Watch the second cut of the video and complete the following lines below with the missing phrases.

⏱ 04:18 - 05:57

Part Two: Six ways to make people like you. Principle 1: Do this now; feel welcome everywhere. “You can make more friends in two months by becoming genuinely interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” - Dale Carnegie When someone admires us, we become interested in them. Take the (1) to do thoughtful, selfless things that matter to others, such as genuinely caring about them and their interests. (2) in someone can lead to more friendships in a short time than trying to get people interested in you can in a long time. In the end, we won't have (3) friends if all we do is try to impress people and get them interested in us. Greeting people with enthusiasm and remembering people's birthdays are (4) to make friends. It's more likely that someone will want to help you if you show genuine interest in them. There's a world of difference in a little things like these.

PRINCIPLE 2: Something simple. “Your smile is a messenger of your good will. Your (5) the lives of all who see it.” - Dale Carnegie A smile is a friendly and warm way to make a (6) . Giving a smile makes the other person think to themselves… "I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you." A smile is (7) that can communicate goodwill, even when it is not seen in person, such as over the phone. It can make a positive impact on everyone you (8) with. Even strangers can appreciate your positive attitude. If you are feeling down, try to make yourself smile as it can improve your mood. Remember that happiness is not determined by external factors, such as what you have or (9) . Rather, it is determined by how you think and feel internally about those things. Making a good first impression starts with a smile.

LET'S DO THE CHALLENGE - FULL CLIP

Direction: Answer the following questions based on the video and let's check your comprehension.

⏱ 03:13 - 05:57

  1. According to the video, what is the only way to influence other people?

  2. How does Gary Vaynerchuk approach hiring interviews?

  3. What is a key principle in making people like you, according to Dale Carnegie?

  4. Why is smiling considered important in making a good first impression?

  5. How can one improve their mood if they are feeling down, according to the video?